My no bullshit guide to being a “modern man”

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Are you like me feed up with the bullshit we are spoon feed as men?If so join me on a journey of self discovery to help us better understand how we should be men in today’s world.

1. You are not your haircut or the clothes you wear.

What are we trying to project when we get a certain hair cut or dress in a certain way. “It’s my own unique sense of style” bullshit it is. We do these things like we always have through history. We look a certain way as a mask. A mask to hide how we really feel about ourselves. Self confidence, self image. We want to project to the world how we want to feel. Don’t get me wrong general hygiene aside we all do it. But think for a second why am I projecting my self this way? It won’t be easy but deep underneath it’s there.

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2. How the media tells us how to live our lives as men

The media say:”A man must be a strong provider””A man must be sensitive””A man must be a good father””A man must look attractive to women”And many other things. The point is the media only confuses what it is to be a man. And this has become a problem we don’t know where we fit in society.

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3. What about the people in our lives how do they see us?

Well for me it’s confusing. I need to be many things to many people. So where does that leave me? Self identity, purpose and values conflict. Is there another way? I hope so.

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4. Where do we start?

Let’s get back to our core. Start with who we are and build and grow.

Step one.

Evaluate. Take stock. Where are we?

Ok enough for now check in very soon for step 2

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